I've been thinking a lot about connecting with our kids. I've had a few people in the recent months that I respect a lot in the parenting and marriage realm speak of getting involved in things our kids love. Learn about it, love it with them, enjoy it with them.
I'm not always good at this.
We don't have the game Chutes and Ladders for one reason: I can't stand it. I know I'm not alone...longest game in child board game history.
I heard a mom speak one time about connecting with one of her teenagers that was difficult for her to connect with. But her son loved football and a specific team. She would study the team, learn their names and numbers, learn about football, and watch the game with him, passionately cheering along. It didn't matter whether she liked football or not. Her son told her years later how important this was in his life, and kept him connected to the family.
I admire this, and desire this to be true in my mothering.
I'm not always good at having tea parties or carving out time for science experiments. It's easier to connect with my artistic Mr. G. As for GH, he is sometimes a mystery. I try to play and connect, but engaging in back and forth play is difficult, and depending on his mood and sensory needs, it changes. But I tell you what, saying the alphabet and messing up the order? Hysterical! He loves it. I'm sure his preschool teacher would be appalled at me doing this, but it's connection.
I've been praying about connecting individually with our kids. But it takes me doing something too, not just waiting for it to happen.
So this weekend I'll be purchasing a Lego set and a puzzle… but I'm still not going to buy Chutes and Ladders :)
What fun things do you do with your kids that they love? Does it help your connection with your kids? If you have grown kids or are a grown kid and had parents or role models that were invested in your interests, do you see the benefit of this now that you're an adult?